The Man I love doesnt love me. ...

Question from Serene :

“ I dont understand why someone would say they love you, and ask you to move in with them and talk about marriage, but then instead of simply saying I dont want to go out with you anymore - he just ignores me. Twice now. After the first time when he came back i made him wait and work hard to gain my trust back and he has just thrown it back at me. Why on earth cant he just be honest with me instead of blanking me?”

Replied , Natalie :

I don't know what this man is playing at. He could be playing a game with your emotions or he could simply be confused and scared of commitment and when you get too close, he has to back off. Whatever the reason, this is no good for you and you need to end it now.

This guy sounds like he has some problems and he's putting these on you. Please don''t allow this to continue, you need to get strong again and move on from this. How can you love someone who hurts you so badly? I know we've all been there and we all get through it in the end but you need to take the first steps to getting your life back on track.

You need to tell him whatever you both had is over and he is not to contact you again. You need to spend time on your own, getting to know you again and building back up the girl you were before all this, as some of that person has probably fallen by the wayside. We have to understand we may not ever understand why they do things. But if something is going on that causes you discomfort you should not allow it to go on. We cannot allow them to run into and out of our lives because if something is meant to be it will.
I know it can be hard when you love someone but this is just dragging you in deeper and deeper and it's not fair on either of you. Please seek some help if you need it, to build your confidence back up and make sure this man is out of your life for good so you can move forward.

Stay Strong and Good Luck.

Natalie

….Personal Story by Natalie...

I still remember the date, the time, the place... In a blink of any eye, It had been 3 years. I asked him to tell me the truth. That if he doesn't love me, he should just say it. It took him at least a half hour, and he kept crying. At one point he even said "Why do you think it's so hard for me to say it?" "Because you don't want to hurt me." "That's not it!" and I thought.. I thought that he was going to tell me he loved me. But a few minutes later he finally did it. "I don't love you,___" And I was crushed. I still am.. but another part of me still thinks he's hiding it. Once a guy had changed, it is difficult to pull him back to you again. I believe in this. Until he come back to you , it will be not the same feelings anymore.