He never love me at all.

He admits he doesn't love me at all since the day we broken up?

I still remember it was in the year of 2005, I have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year. Whilst he behaves in a loving manner and is respectful and caring, he never tells me he loves me, he was trying to avoid telling me "I LOVE YOU" in fact he tells me he doesn't until the day we broke up. Should I accept this at face value and leave, or could it be self preservation on his part and I should be a little patient with him?

I use to ask him why he didn't tell me he loved me and his reply "was that he wasn't sure he did" He cares alot, does all the right things but he just doesn't love me in that "in love kinda way" I think cause our 2 yr is coming up I started asking him how he see the future and if his feelings had grown over the last year. He said he couldn't picture his life without me in it but he still doesn't have the head over heels in love feelings for me. I think after 2 yrs someone would know if they could ever love you.

After a year with my boyfriend he told me "I really like you." I never asked if he loved me because telling me he likes me gave me the answer. He treats me extremely well and is VERY caring WHEN we are together which is mostly on weekends. He includes me in any events with family and/or friends. However, he sometimes doesn't call me for two or three days at a time and when I asked him why he said he gets busy.. there isn't anything to talk about so there is no sense for him to call me every day. When he talks to his friends he has occasionally made statements in the middle of a cheerful, fun conversation, saying to someone, "that's why I love you so much." He has said that to friends probably 6 times in the past year. My take on the whole things is love is never going to happen so....

Till now, He's still in my mind. I remembered him.. It is going to be the 3rd years since the day we broke up.. We did keep in touch. Just like a good friend to me. And i guess he's prepared to marry . Anyways, I'm trying to leave myself open for someone who WILL fall in love with me.



Nat { Rainy days }

Love Depression Makes Me Feel Cold. .....

Depression is inevitable if you love someone very much and that person either does not love you the same way or there are few hurdles that hinder you to be together. Love actually transforms you into a slave or completely dominates over you. This kind of feeling is actually a disease that hits you badly. You become weak and also dependent on your beloved. When this person does not care for you, you feel upset and all alone. Love is truly wonderful when it is reciprocal and the person you love is very nice, caring and ready to give you anything you want. This would be the ideal recognition of your dreams!

However, reality is different and far away from the perfection... You can have couple of problems. You actually don't know whether this person really loves you or not. Some times the person also does not come up to your expectations, which ultimately creates problems.

You may also enter into a relationship that you have never dreamt of. You can feel this, because the person you love does not care for you as much as you do or maybe because their personality is immature, selfish and mysterious. This type of person is not the one that you desire. Since you are in love, so you ignore these things in good faith and hope that he or she will change and care for you, share life with you, etc. Actually nothing changes as per your good wishes.

Dreams are very meaningful. Dreams produce important messages of the unconscious side of your psychic sphere that guides you and protects you from the craziness that you already inherit in the wild side of your conscience. It actually remains in its original pattern without the change in conscious. Love makes you very sensitive and irrational. You therefore make several mistakes, which you must avoid. The unconscious is well aware that love plays a very important role in your life, so it transmits several dreams to you with specific information about the person whom you love. The purpose of this information is to protect you, keep your human conscience alive and also develop it in the best possible manner.

When you are in love, you need protection and guidance to direct you, what to do. You need this direly, as you are depending on the behaviour of a very special person for you. If not , you feel very weak and drained.

HUrts,,,

Natalie

What "HE" Wants Actually...

That was the only time i met him and the last time i chated to him. Few weeks later and you still havent talked to him but you found his myspace and you wanted to ask him a question, instead of saying hey whats up because i wanted the conversation to be interesting, i wanted him to say something that is worth talking about. the reason i still keep in touch with him it is because im interested on him , he’s all you ever think about but he’s few years older than me and you’re not so sure if he feels the same way. I just want the conversation to be interesting. what do i ask him?

I know i probably thinking i can’t love someone who only met once... webcam...etc... Sometimes you might feel helpless and you feel heart break when you think of him.. It just like , you wish to have him in your life. But it is impossible unless there's miracle appear.

... What guys want..

They will prefer a girl with a sense of humor as well as someone who can laugh at herself in the face of embarrassment. A girl who doesn't get jealous of other women (and trust me men will look, you can't stop this genetic problem, as long as they don't 'look' for too long and they DO NOT touch) and a girl who is physically into her man. A girl who is friendly and gets on well with his friends, but not so well that he may feel threatened by it. Guys like a girl who is able to support herself. This doesn't mean you need to be a millionaire, it just means you don't have your hand out expecting him to bail you out of your financial troubles as soon as you get together. Most men are attracted to a girl who is independent. It shows strength of character.

Besides that, a girl who doesn't continually worry about her weight, what's she's eating and complaining that she's overweight. The guys I interviewed said it's not a girl's size that counts, it's whether she could pull off a great personality. Apparently weight issues annoy them very much. So gals' get over it and love yourself for who you are!! The guys will love you too! For a girl who respects the time 'he' needs with his friends. As you need with yours, this is what guys like too.

Now I want to tell all you girls out there that although we should not conform to what a male wants, we should consider the male perspective (especially about the weight). Sometimes men can be right. Sometimes women can be right. Many of the needs outlined are pretty cool really! These guys were all refreshingly level headed.

It seems, most guys want a fun, passionate, well adjusted, independent girl who's not too scared to try new things. And really for most girls, that's what we strive to be anyway (so they can't be that far off the mark, can they?)

So there's hope for us all!

Natalie .. 21/11/08

What Girls Want ??

A girl wants a man. A wealthy man, a successful men, a famous man, an interesting man, a macho, a talented man, a loving man, a man she loves, a father for her children, a friend, a sex-machine – details may differ, but the main point stays the same. She wants a man. Some females want just money or a career, but if she denies her willingness to meet a real man – she lies. Moreover, girl’s demands to what she calls a good man vary as she gets older.

A girl of 22 wants a prince on a white horse. A girl may claim she’s realistic and doesn’t look on the world through the pink glasses, but she’ll never confess dreaming of an ideal man. He’s got to be handsome, charming, popular. He’s got to be rich - probably not so rich, but always in funds. Of course, he’s got to be generous to spend money on her. He’s got to be smart, brilliantly smart– to some girls it’s even more important than being very handsome, but of course his mind is never more important than his purse. He’s got to have a great sense of humor, to be athletic, stylish, romantic and a good listener, tender lover and... well, the list of his qualities can be prolonged on and on. A girl wants a man to adore her and to make her the goddess with flowers, gifts and promises of eternal love laid at her feet.

A girl of 32 wants just a good man. She has finally taken off those pink glasses and got rid of romantic fantasies. So her good man mustn’t be a hero – he is good-looking, has good manners, a well-paid job, a good car, a good house, and a good sum of money on a credit card. Also he carries bags from supermarket, likes her home-cooked dinners, laughs at her jokes, remembers the most important dates – like her mom’s birthday, and able to express tenderness not less than one time per week. Such a nice domestic kind of a good man.

A girl of 42 wants just a man. That ordinary kind of man is not a movie star, he even has a belly instead of muscles– good if the shirt covers it all; sometimes a head lacking hair, but still isn’t too disgusting. He shaves by the weekends, is still “athletic” enough to do some housework, remembers where to laugh in the jokes, nods to show he’s listening, takes her out once a month, drives her to the supermarket and back, doesn’t set the car in motion until all women’s parts of body are in, and puts the water-closet pan’s seat down.

A girl of 52 wants... well she just lives with that man. It’s really nice if he remembers her name, shaves during weekends, sometimes gets a haircut, changes underwear and socks regularly, borrows money not too often, tries to behave himself in public. It’s great if he also finds the strength to leave the coach for some weekends, notices delicious dinner while watching TV, doesn’t always fall asleep while listening to a person. By this age a woman doesn’t expect much, in fact she asks for the very minimum.

A girl of 62 wants a man who won’t disturb her too often. She’s a lucky one, if he’s not too scary to make his own grandchildren cry, if he still remembers where the bathroom is, where his teeth are, what month it is, who this woman is, what he is laughing at, and etc. A woman will appreciate his ability to get up, dress properly without much help from her side. The top of all dreams is if it doesn’t cost a lot to keep that man, and if there are some places in the house, where his snore doesn’t reach.

A girl of 72... well, some “girls” do live that long, but what about men? Are you sure he’s still breathing? And he doesn’t leave puddles in the water-closet? Oh, that’s a real treasure for a tired girl of 72.

Most relationships wouldn't last if there wasn't a reason as well as the love.

Sure, love can be a reason, but what reason is, isn't necessarily described in words.

Affection, and how people are happy around each other. These feelings, when they are felt bothways, then there is hope for lasting relationships, and reason is what makes these feelings last. True reason, that is. If 'reason', like say, money, is a reason to love, that is wrong and not reason nor love, simply greed.

Good Luck .

Natalie 12/11/08

HE

.... Words from HIM .......

" Listen! I stand at the door and knock; if anyone hears My voice and opens the door, i will come into his house and eat with him, and he will eat with Me, Jesus. "

Love & Friendships

Platonic love is very much a part of any close friendship. But such a love doesn't always stay platonic. Sometimes it turns into passionate love. Crossing that line, between friendship and love, can be both beautiful and extremely difficult.

Friendship is a marvelous gift. But, sometimes, it's not the whole of what we have to offer.



Nat

The Man I love doesnt love me. ...

Question from Serene :

“ I dont understand why someone would say they love you, and ask you to move in with them and talk about marriage, but then instead of simply saying I dont want to go out with you anymore - he just ignores me. Twice now. After the first time when he came back i made him wait and work hard to gain my trust back and he has just thrown it back at me. Why on earth cant he just be honest with me instead of blanking me?”

Replied , Natalie :

I don't know what this man is playing at. He could be playing a game with your emotions or he could simply be confused and scared of commitment and when you get too close, he has to back off. Whatever the reason, this is no good for you and you need to end it now.

This guy sounds like he has some problems and he's putting these on you. Please don''t allow this to continue, you need to get strong again and move on from this. How can you love someone who hurts you so badly? I know we've all been there and we all get through it in the end but you need to take the first steps to getting your life back on track.

You need to tell him whatever you both had is over and he is not to contact you again. You need to spend time on your own, getting to know you again and building back up the girl you were before all this, as some of that person has probably fallen by the wayside. We have to understand we may not ever understand why they do things. But if something is going on that causes you discomfort you should not allow it to go on. We cannot allow them to run into and out of our lives because if something is meant to be it will.
I know it can be hard when you love someone but this is just dragging you in deeper and deeper and it's not fair on either of you. Please seek some help if you need it, to build your confidence back up and make sure this man is out of your life for good so you can move forward.

Stay Strong and Good Luck.

Natalie

….Personal Story by Natalie...

I still remember the date, the time, the place... In a blink of any eye, It had been 3 years. I asked him to tell me the truth. That if he doesn't love me, he should just say it. It took him at least a half hour, and he kept crying. At one point he even said "Why do you think it's so hard for me to say it?" "Because you don't want to hurt me." "That's not it!" and I thought.. I thought that he was going to tell me he loved me. But a few minutes later he finally did it. "I don't love you,___" And I was crushed. I still am.. but another part of me still thinks he's hiding it. Once a guy had changed, it is difficult to pull him back to you again. I believe in this. Until he come back to you , it will be not the same feelings anymore.

The Boyfriend that Every Girl Would Want.

A Perfect Lover that i wish to have. :D
Who is The Right one for me ?

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When you break her heart
[ the pain NEVER really goes away ]

When she misses you
[ she's hurting inside ]

When she says its over
[ she STILL wants you to be hers ]

When she re-posts this bulletin
[ she wants you to read it ]

When she walks away from you mad
[ Follow her]

When she stare's at your mouth
[ Kiss her ]

When she pushes you or hit's you
[ Grab her and don’t let go ]

When she starts cursing at you
[ Kiss her and tell her you love her ]

When she ignores you
[ Give her your attention]

When she pulls away
[ Pull her back ]

When you see her at her worst
[ Tell her she's beautiful ]

When you see her start crying
[Just hold her and don’t say a word ]

When you see her walking
[ Sneak up and hug her waist from behind ]

When she's scared
[ Protect her ]

When she lays her head on your shoulder
[ Tilt her head up and kiss her ]

When she steals your favorite hat
[ Let her keep it and sleep with it for a night]

When she teases you
[ Tease her back and make her laugh ]

When she doesn’t answer for a long time
[ reassure her that everything is okay ]

When she looks at you with doubt
[ Back yourself up with the TRUTH]

When she says that she likes you
[ she really does more than you could understand ]

When she grabs at your hands
[ Hold hers and play with her fingers ]

When she bumps into you
[ bump into her back and make her laugh ]

When she tells you a secret
[ keep it safe and untold ]

When she looks at you in your eyes
[ don’t look away until she does ]

- Stay on the phone with her even if she’s not saying anything

-DON'T let her have the last word

-DON'T call her hot, but gorgeous or beautiful is soo much better

- Say you love her more than she could ever love you

- Argue that she is the best girl ever

- When she's mad hug her tight and don't let go

- When she says she's OK don’t believe it, talk with her because 10 yrs later she'll remember you

- Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her

- Call her before you sleep and after you wake up

- Treat her like she's all that matters to you

- Tease her and let her tease you back

-Stay up all night with her when she's sick

- Watch her favorite movie with her or her favorite show even if you think its stupid

- Give her the world

- Let her wear your clothes

- When she's bored and sad, hang out with her

- Let her know she's important

- Kiss her in the pouring rain

- When she runs up at you crying, the first thing you say is;

"Who's ass am I kicking today baby?"



Natalie

I Just Want to Meet The Right Person

Questions :
"Sometime i wil think that "W hat the hell is the matter with me.... I dont know , perhaps i am shy, perhaps i have a low self esteem, perhaps i am the most ugliest and hideous person ever . You will never know how much i long for someone to share my day with , to sharte my life experiences , and to laugh with. Many people i meet are shallow , they only look on the outside and not the real person . i guess i am doomed to be alone , its hard to face -lonelyness "


Replied , Natalie :
Come on sweetie.. I'm sure you aren't the most ugly, hideous person ever. If everyone you meet only looks at the outside, you need to find a new place to meet people!! I've felt that way for the longest time and still do quite often. I suspect that you have the same problem as me, a problem loving yourself. If you start to love yourself and care less what others think of you, you will see good results. No matter what anybody says or thinks about you, it should not change the most important love of all which is self love. Love yourself first, and then you'll become more open to loving experiences from others. not everyone is shallow. I used to think this too, but I've come to realize that most of the non-superficial just aren't overly vocal about it, so you'd have no idea unless you got to know them.

There are no hideous and ugly person as i believe, GOD created us equally. And if u think that ur ugly, maybe im ugly too. not having someone by ur side doesnt mean that your ugly. it means its not the right time yet for you to have someone....Just wait and dont loose hope, am sure right time will come.. and right person. Just think that there's no ugly person in the world, not you, not me, nor anybody...believe in urself, love urself, and most of all believe in GOD...he will give u strength and self confidence. as well as he will give someone to love u.. just like my man whom GOD gave to me...

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Here are some tips for successful dating. - If you need it.. lol...

• Plan your date in advance. Find out what the other person likes to do and Plan something fun that you will both enjoy.
• The first date should give you a chance to talk and get to know each other. It is better to make some jokes... But not too Over Pls... :D
• Don’t go to a movie! Nothing much you guys can do in the cinema, wasted your 2 hours . Just go for coffee or a drink at a local wine bar. Cheers~
• Keep the conversation light. Don’t talk about your problems or your ex. Thts ridiculous.. LOL
• Be positive and have a good sense of humour. Everyone likes to be with someone who is fun. Lighten up and have a good time.
• Be punctual.
• Don’t talk on your cell phone. ( He/She will be not happy )
• Don’t talk about yourself all night.... Bla Bla Bla... Ask your date questions and be a good listener. It shows that you are interested.




Nat

Would a korean guy marry a girl who didn't speak much korean?

Thanks - Jammie, Yon, Hyuen.

I would like to answer ..

IT is the Heart that really matters, not the language. THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS LOVE will draw them both together. The rest is up to our Imagination. LOVE is BEAUTIFUL! ^^ I am very happy for couples to pair off in different cultures & languages and they still are so much in Love with one another. Wow. that is really AMAZING LOL!

Strenghtening A Relationship Between Peopleof Different Cultures

Having a romantic relationship with someone takes a lot of work. Though a relationship with someone of a different culture is very common, as more and more people cross borders and work in other countries, this kind of setup is something that you would want to think about, since it involves a lot of issues. Maybe you are in love with a partner who has a different cultural background, but it doesn't really matter much to you.

If you are really in love with your partner, First thing you must understand your partner's culture. Whatever cultural background your partner has, you just have to get to know it better. It may be more than the getting-to-know-you process, but your partner will definitely appreciate it if you spend time and effort to find your way into his or her roots.
Secondly, wouldn't it be great if you can meet your partner's family? You can actually learn so much about your partner by meeting the very important people in his or her life. It is also a way of getting your good intentions across to your partner. It might also be an enriching experience to spend some time with them. But we cant expect too much, when you are having a long distance relationship, how oftenly you can go to your partner's house and meet their parents? unless both of you really think of marriage.

Communication is vital to all kinds of relationships. Talk things out with your partner. Tell your partner about your feelings toward the relationship, whether good or bad. Tell him or her all about your fears and hopes. Language barriers may also be a challenge. Think of different ways of reaching out to your partner. Learning a new word of his or her language a day is sweet. You don't need to be fluent at once. Remember, action speaks louder than words. As i mentioned my previous blog, korean man usually wont share their feelings towards their partner. It will reflect that it is their weakness. I'm still attracted by Korean. I'm trying hard to undertsand what they really think about.. However, not all korean are like that.

You might have come from different backgrounds so disagreements will always pop out every now and then. As you learn to accept each other's differences, you should always know how to respect your partner. Depending on how you handle your differences, acceptance will always be the key.

Doesn't really sound like the cultural difference is the issue.The issue is not between Korean men and caucasian women it's between a man and a woman.Why would anyone want to be with someone they can't get along with? You can love someone but it doesn't mean that you need to marry them. You might want to try a "trial separation" and honestly determine if life is better without them. You might want to date another Korean man who you do get along with.Good Luck

Long Distance Relationship with Korean Men

I think for most people, long distance relationships are just unthinkable and too difficult and expensive to manage. They might involve ome sacrifice and extra effort and lack of e.g. a physical hug at the right moment can be hard. However, if managed in the right way, the long distance relationship can be keep a relationship fresh, and of course you have the advantage of remaining in comtrol your independent life while hopefully having the support of your partner when you need it.

I have few korean friends. Most of them are so egotism which we called it as "Big Man" . Most few of them are not. I tried to understand the mind of Korean males from Korea. I kept asking myself, is it me or they all non-emotional? I have friends who preferring to date"white"( i would say "westernized") men becasue they tend to be treated better. A westernized boyfriend/husband therefore provides an escape route from the constraints of their culture. Hence the korean men in particular may behave in ways which appear awkward, emotionally dysfunctional or rather self-centered.

I have a friend who dates with korean men. They are very controlling of their gf/wife. They do not like it when other guys stare at "their property". Yet , they can flirt with girls in front of their girlfriends as if nothing is wrong with that. I find this childish. But at the same time i am attracted to them. Not for their bad habits,but for their good habits. Korean and Western culture do seem to contradict one another. These different cultures are like the same poles of two magnets towards each other. But if you move the magnets around a bit, turning and such, they eventually cant resist the attraction. Relationships can be headaches.. even two people of the same nationally will attest to that. Culture differences can throw another kink in the gears,true,but so can alot of other things.

We are also human beings in this planet and deserve equal treatment, respect, love as much as every korean. The world is changing and we are more closer to each other than we where 10 years ago. Although we have different culture, our basic human needs and wants are still the same. Let us open our minds and hearts to one another and respect each other in every way. People from different backgrounds, color, belief, can find happiness together as long as they are bonded with respect, honesty and trust from each other.